Giving Thanks to God for The Year of the Endless Possibilities 2019

Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I happen to be off from work so why not blog on how much I am truly thankful to be alive in 2019?

I asked the Lord for a word for this year back in December of 2018 and he told me Endless Possibilities. My BFF, Kathleen, was kind enough to paint it on a little piece of wood so that I could keep my eyes on it for the coming months. I had big dreams, big God Dreams with my art, and I was even planning on starting a coloring book over the summer. I had so many carnal dreams and ambitions. I still long to be able to sell something I create to others. This desire has and will always be a dream of mine.

But, I believe God had better things in store for me. Things that were not in the natural so to speak. Things that can not be bought with man made money, nor sold.  In 2019 he has given me endless possibilities to know him more fully, to trust him steadily, and to seek him in all things. He has called me into a deeper love with him, and he has shaped and molded my beliefs to become more aligned with his word. He has assembled my faith so strong, and he has put me through the fires, so to speak, to teach me to sincerely trust what his word says, and to trust in his faithfulness.

The coloring book did not get a running start, nor did any art hooks ups ever come my way. I did happen to meet an Artist downtown, and I really thought hard about taking an art class. These leads just never seemed to get me walking in the right direction. I had to come into my own and stop comparing myself to others. I had to break free from some lies, self doubts, and insecurities. I had to taste true freedom in discovering my identity in Christ and become who he created me to be. The beautiful things is, I think it takes our whole lives to “become” who he originally created us to be, and that is the beauty of walking with him every day in this life.

Seasons come and seasons go, and as we learn and receive more wisdom and revelation of his love for us, we evolve; we change. I don’t ever want to stay the same, stuck in repetitive patterns of thinking that could be toxic to my soul.

I want grow in grace each year, becoming more and more like my original blue print.

I want to love deeper.

I want to express my love more willingly.

I want to share the love of christ with everyone I meet, and I want my life to be a beautiful dance of worship to the King of Kings, and the Lord of Lords, JESUS.

I want to give myself to my gifts and callings, and I want to see his will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

I want to speak the words he gives to me others eloquently and full of faith.

I want to be lead by the Holy Spirit.

I want to be a light that shines bright in a dark place.

I want to see the love of God heal broken people.

I want to see the love of God set people free from bondage.

I want to see the love of God transform people and change their whole trajectory of life.

I want to see generations rise up and be the hands and feet of Jesus.

I want to see a church on fire for God.

I want to see mountains be moved in faith.

I want to see hope in the hurting, and I want to see miracles, signs, and wonders follow all of those who truly believe in Him.

There is so much to be done, with such a short time span to be here on this earth to see it come to pass.

So as I sit here and pour my heart out into this post I just sit in awe and I give thanks for all that God has done in my life. I give thanks for the seasons of the hills and the valleys, because they teach me more of how much I need dependency on God and less upon myself and others.

2019 wasn’t a walk in the park. 2019 was a hard year of loving people who do not love me back, and doing for others expecting nothing in return. It was a year of dying to myself, a year of seeking first the kingdom and what God has assigned to me for this time. I trust he will give me all the desires of my heart, until then I will give thanks for all that he has given me in the present, and I will continue to seek him, to love him more, to grow more mature in him. Thank you King Jesus, thank you for loving me, and allowing me access to you and the Father through your Holy Spirit!

Happy Thanksgiving!

-Ash’Leigh Harris

Standing steady

October 25, 2019

Today I feel joy, and contentment. God has been so good to me and today I chose to celebrate him and the goodness he has brought into my life.

I am still in a season of being put into the fire but I, finally in my maturity, let God just sustain me and fight my battles. It’s been amazing and I say this after his grace washed over me and gave me a new song to sing in this chapter of my life.

If I would have wrote down my thoughts a month ago I would have had to write from a place of dissatisfaction and hurt. My Words would have had thorns in them, razor sharp to the touch.

A little over a month ago I threw a fit. I yelled, and I bawled, and I expressed and confessed to God how deeply I was in pain. I couldn’t see a way out, and I felt so lost inside the hopelessness that felt like my present reality.

We don’t have to hold our feelings in all the time. Know that even if your a God’s daughter or God’s son you will still experience feelings of hurt, persecution, rejection from others, and pain. We are not super human with the ability to cast off human emotions. Don’t let pride tell you that you are not allowed to feel emotions. I have spent a long time coming to terms with this. I use to think that if I let others hurt me I wasn’t trusting God enough to heal the pain, but this was just the devils attempt to deceive me into thinking emotions were bad and a sign of doubt and weakness on my part. So what did I do? I stuffed and stuffed and stuffed some more, until I was so full of pretending all my feelings came spilling over like the rushing waters in a spill way. Tears flying galore!

We are allowed to feel but we are not allowed to let those emotions cause us to sin. Anger leads to danger extremely quick! Depression leads to isolation. Rejection and pain can make you be more inner focused which leads to being selfish and self absorbed; the victim who feeds on self pity and any attention we can get our hands on from others.

I finally made my mind up that I would wait on God and I would see the victory because I can chose to stand on his word. His word says that if he is for me, then who could be against me? His word says that the lord will fight my battles, all I have to do is be still. The lord says he will prove to be false the words that rise against me in judgement. I had read them all so many times before but never did I once just hold on and wait it out trusting him and keeping my cool.

Instead off letting the world know I was wobbly and falling apart, I went to the quiet place, and prayed and praises God for what he was doing and will do even if I can’t see it now in the natural.

My battle isn’t over but my fighting strategy is new and is still in play. This strategy of keeping my peace and being true to myself has given me a clear conscience and a mind that is free of fear, and always assuming the worst outcome.

I’m steady…. I am strong because in my weakness he is Strong, and the joy of the Lord is my strength! ❤️

Leigh Leigh

What is satan up to Today?

Four things he is trying to steal from you Today.

What is he trying to steal from me? What is he trying to steal from you?

  1. Joy
  2. Liberty
  3. Attention/ Focus
  4. Faith

Jesus came to destroy the works of hell. We learn this in Hebrews 2:14 “Since the children have flesh and blood, He too shared in their humanity so that by His death He might destroy him who holds the power of death, that is, the Devil.”

Each day we have a choice to co-labor with the Father through the Holy Spirit to see Heaven come down to earth. Anointed to do good works, and point others to Christ, the one who Saves. (Isaiah 61:1 NKJV) “The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon Me, Because the LORD has anointed Me To preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives, And the opening of the prison to those who are bound;

Today the Lord made it very clear that not only was I engaged in a spiritual battle, but this attack was specifically to distract me. As I got in the car and rehearsed the insanity of the day, my daughter brought it to my attention that tonight she wanted to pray for a little boy that enrolled in our school. He has a voice, but can not speak. She told me we needed to pray for God to heal his vocal cords because this was very important that he would need to talk in his life. As soon as she spoke those words of love for this child she has just encountered for the first time, the thought hit me how I missed that this morning. Though I was enrolling this student, anger was boiling under my surface lingering from a hellish attack before walking into the office, and I was trying to concentrate and keep my cool, praying for others was the last on my mind, sadly. 

The enemy will come against us every singe day. We have to be prepared for that. We have to pray on the Lord’s armor, he has not left us to fend for ourselves. As we shield up and seek his face in the midst of our adversaries attacks and schemes, he is faithful to fight for us. 

He will go after our joy. Why? Because the our joy is our strength. He wants us weak.

He will go after our liberty by deceiving us with circumstances that make us believe we will never get over this, surely it will not pass soon enough, we think. We will be enslaved in a negative mind set, a defeated mindset.

He will go after our focus. Who stops to think of others and their needs when they are only focused on themselves and their momentary feelings. He is blinding us to those around us in need. 

He goes after our faith. When it feels like the Lord is silent or we aren’t rescued soon enough. When we are slandered or lied on, mocked, or ridiculed, and we don’t get our vengeance, we start to fear and slowly our faith to stand tall becomes fading. 

Tomorrow you and I will be faced with another opportunity to either fall for his tricks, or pray for wisdom and revelation of the attack that is being launched at us. I pray that we would be sensitive to say no, not today satan. You will not steal my joy, my liberty, my focus, or my faith. Prepare to set your mind on things above and during the attacks take a deep breath,  and then quickly surrender your desire to control the situation to handle it on your own. 

The Lord will fight for you, you need only to be still. Exodus 14:14

 

 

 

Commissioned to do Great Works

Hello there!

Man! I am super pumped and super excited to write this blog post this morning. I legit feel like I just drank 2 Red Bull’s and if you know me personally, I can only handle about half a tiny can of any sort of energy drink such as that. So I am HYPER!

I am so excited because I am about to share what the Lord has been speaking and confirming to me. I have been searching my heart and going to him in prayer about what this blog will be a reflection of.

So how did this new season begin, and you might be wondering, hey Ash why now? You have had this whole blog for three years why are you taking it seriously now? Well, when you get direct orders you must obey. I can’t really even believe what I am about to say because my brain is trying to keep up with my spirit and my heart but the Holy Spirit loves to speak to me in word form in the wee morning hours, usually always on the weekend right before I come to and wake up for the day. It started about a month ago, I woke up and heard the word spoken over me, “Order.” I was thinking hmmm, Order? I remembered I attended a teaching not too long ago that explained Godly order and how we have to align our lives to God first. I thought well maybe I need to go check out those notes for more insight. I have learned that the Holy Spirit likes to reveal to us little by little until we discover the meat and potatoes of what he wants us to know. Kinda like a small appetizer before the main course! I know I should have been more obedient to diving into what he was trying to communicate with me but I didn’t, sad to say. I will share more on this topic at a later day.

The next week at the same exact time he spoke over me, “Commission.” I knew he was taking me straight to The Great Commission in Matthew 28:18. If you are new to the Great Commission I can educate you real quickly. So this is where Jesus is about to leave to ascend into heaven and he gets his disciples together and he tells them now “Go–With all authority in heaven and on earth that was Given to him (because he defeated sin and death on the cross after he died and rose again, he went down to hell and took back the keys of authority here on earth Adam handed over to Satan in the Garden, my own insert) to make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that he commanded them, and then he promised them he would be with them always, to the end of the age.”

As born again believers in Christ we all have a part in this commission by Jesus himself, and when you listen to the promptings of the Holy Spirit he will guide you into the way you should go with your commission.

I don’t speak of these things often because we live in a world with people who’s hearts are harden, and they have scales over their eyes to believe. These scales are their marks of pride. The Bible teaches us that God will remove this pride when we surrender what we think we know to him, when we allow him to give us a new heart as we confess that Jesus is our savior, repenting asking for forgiveness of our sins, and dying to our old self thus putting on our new self who we are/ our identity in Christ Jesus.

Since we are placed into such an environment of disbelief when we speak of these things, we literally sound like aliens or “religious nuts,” but the truth of the matter is we sound so foreign because we are speaking light and truth in a dark and deceived world. People who want to live in the freedom of believing they can make their own truth have a very hard time when you tell them there is only one truth and they are being deceived in their freedom of thinking the way they want.

John 1 teaches us that “In the beginning was the WORD, and the WORD was with God, and the WORD was God. He was the beginning with God. ALL THINGS were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not over come it. The true light, which gives light to everyone, was coming into the world. He was in the world, and the world was made through him, yet the world did not know him. He came to his own, and his people did not receive him. But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become child of God, who were born not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God. And the WORD became flesh and dwelt amongst us, and we have seen his glory, glory as the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth. From his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace. For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. No one has ever seen God; the only God, who is at the Father’s side, he has made him known. (John 1:1-18)

With all this said, we having Christ in us, who comes and makes his home in us at the conception of salvation, are the light carriers in this dark unredeemed place.

The Lord has put it on my heart to LET IT BE KNOWN! He is calling us to stand up, be bold and courageous, and speak HIS TRUTH every where we go.

Now do you have to be some weirdo that acts weird and has no friends and alienates their self to this weird religious bubble who everyone avoids from their weirdness?

🤪HECKS NO😵

Jesus is a “sneaky Jesus” as Steven Furtick would put him. He sneaks his truth in to others and his favorite way to do this is to use YOU AND ME to do his Fathers will! #GOD!

His sneaking his truth in can be LOUD by words or it can be soundless by our actions, but we are all called to do the works he predestined for us before the earth was formed! All we must do, is be obedient in the call.

So now you can understand why this blog will be so important to my walk, because it will be an outward reflection of my obedience to the call.

I woke up and I asked the Lord, “What do you want me to write about today Lord?” I then proceeded to get on Pinterest and search life style blogging for beginners because I am a nerd 🤓 about learning all the small details.

I began to reflect on my week and what he was teaching me, PRIDE that is in our hearts that come out in our words, but that will have to be another blog post, because as I was reading the scriptures I searched on pride Holy Spirit just dropped Exodus 4:5 into my thoughts. I thought to myself, okay lets go see what that says.

I have learned in my faith walk that the Lord does reveal things to me through scriptures, but I always read the content before and after to get the whole picture. Sometimes he speaks in a word, a one liner, a chapter, or a whole book!

What I need to insert here is that I have a prophetic gift where the Lord will just download words into my mind and they will be instructions or encouragement, whatever he decides to share with me. The words of knowledge can be to edify me, teach me, or to encourage or give wisdom and counsel to others whom he desires. I can’t write it all here because it is so long, but to summarize it up, two Sundays ago before church he just started talking and he didn’t let up. He told me, “LET IT BE KNOWN that he is the God who saves. Let it be known that he sets the captives free, that he heals,” and so on and so forth. Reflecting now it was like he was telling me to let it be known what all we are commissioned to do in Christ.

So back to Exodus 4:5. Let’s start with the beginning of the chapter shall we? You are going to love this. “Then Moses answered, “But behold, they will not believe me or listen to my voice, for they will say, “The Lord did not appear to you.” We then see a dialogue between Moses and the Lord. The Lord is instructing him to activate his faith through a material thing, the staff which turns into a serpent. Moses runs from it, but then the Lord says take it by the tail and as Moses obeys the serpent turns back into the staff. He his giving Moses the ability to express himself through tangible evidence he can show the people so they would believe he is following the one true God. But verse 10 is where my heart sank and I could relate to Moses, and maybe you can too! “But Moses said to the Lord;”Oh my Lord, I am not eloquent, either in the past or since you have spoken to your servant, but I am slow of speech and of tongue.” The Lord said to him, “Who has made man’s mouth?Who makes him mute, or deaf, or seeing, or blind?” Is it not I the Lord? Now therefore go, and I will be with your mouth and teach you what you shall speak.”

Exodus 4:5- “That they may believe that the Lord, the God of their fathers, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, appeared to you.”

Why speak? SO THEY WILL BELIEVE!

Why are we commissioned?

Why are we to share the good news?

Why?

Because we are surrounded by unbelievers who don’t believe, and how can they have faith to believe?

Faith comes from what is heard and what is heard comes from the message about Christ. Romans 10:17.

Why?

Because we are here to share the love of God with EVERYONE, and what is his heart for EVERYONE?

2 PETER 3:9 ” The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting ANYONE to perish, but everyone to come to repentance!”

His heart is that no man shall perish, but have ever lasting life through his Son, Jesus.

Why are we commissioned?

Because Christ wants us to be his hands and feet to share the gospel, the good news, that the only truth is HIM, the only FREEDOM is through him, and the only Healing is through him!

John 3:15 “That whosoever believe in him shall not persist, but have eternal life.”

“Jesus answered, I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14:6

So how is the Lord Commissioning you to be apart of the beautiful love story of his love and grace for his people?

How will you respond to the call?

Have you asked him to prepare your heart to leave a life that glorifies him?

Why not do it today?

Be still and wait, wait for him to disrupt your safe way of living for yourself.

Then sit back and hold on because you will be on the ride of your life!

Remember you don’t have to do anything out of your own strength, just out of your obedience to Christ.

-Ash’Leigh Harris

Freedom in the hurting

Dear Girl who has been hurt by people over and over again, this post is for you.

I pray right now that the Lord would move over your heart and your mind as you read these words because you are so fearlessly authentically made by God the creator of the whole universe; the one who spoke it all into existence with the sound of his mighty voice, and you my sweet girl are no accident, you were created for a heavenly eternal purpose.

We have an enemy on earth who comes to kill steal and destroy , but Jesus came to give you life, true life to the full! With out accepting Christ in your heart (no offense) but, you along with me, and everyone else is literally the walking dead.

“O Lord, you hear the desire of the afflicted; you will strengthen their heart; you will incline your ear to do justice to the fatherless and the oppressed, so that man who is of the earth may strike terror no more.”

Psalms 10:17-18 ESV

The walking dead are who the Bible calls orphans, or the fatherless. God wants to adopt you and make you his daughter. I know it may sound crazy but until we receive Jesus Christ in our hearts we are missing the inheritance that is from our Heavenly Father God and what his son died so brutally for us to obtain and use! Freedom from your past and true freedom from the pain caused by others is included in your inheritance!!!

God can supernaturally heal every brokenness inside of you in the blink of an eye!

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace, which he lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of his will, according to his purpose, which he set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth. In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will, so that we who were the first to hope in Christ might be to the praise of his glory. In him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it, to the praise of his glory.”

Ephesians 1:3-14 ESV

I’m actually really excited you have reached a place to where you can experience the pain caused by others. I had a lot of pride and it hindered me from allowing God to heal my hurts and pains once and for all. It’s okay and normal to feel the consequences of actions caused by others, what’s not okay is to stay in that hurt and live in a victim mentality!

(Not saying you are.)

Father God I pray right now Lord that you would allow her to feel your presence and your love as you are calling her out of the darkness and pain and into the light of your loving arms. The arms of a father who will never ever let us down, you promise a Good plan for our lives, you promise to never leave us nor forsake us, father I pray that if she doesn’t know your son Jesus that you would remove any confusion Satan has blinded her heart and mind with and receive your love, your light, your joy, your happiness, and peace that passes all understanding.

“because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved. For the Scripture says, “Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame.”

For “everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.””

Romans 10:9-11, 13 ESV

Father I pray she would accept your invitation to be adopted by you and receive a life of freedom through your son Jesus! In Jesus name I pray, amen!

This little light of mine

I’m going to let it shine, let it shine, let it shine, let it shine!!!

I so very often catch myself singing Sunday school songs I sang in church as a little girl. I think deep down inside, they will always be my favorite!

The Lord woke me up around 6:30ish this morning. As I was grabbing my freshly brewed morning coffee and collecting all my devotionals for some time with him, Holy Spirit whispered very quietly, “Arise, shine, for the glory of the Lord is upon you.”

I knew this was a scripture so I pulled my bible app out to search for it. I was taken by verse 3 because today is our last summer session with the immigration ladies!!! Eeeek! I felt like he was letting me know that today his glory was going to shine so bright over us ladies that they would find joy in their sadness, His presence is going to show up and shine BRIGHT!!!!

Eeeeeeekkkkk!!! (Oh that’s my happy squeal sound by the way!!

““Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord rises upon you. See, darkness covers the earth and thick darkness is over the peoples, but the Lord rises upon you and his glory appears over you. Nations will come to your light, and kings to the brightness of your dawn.”

‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭60:1-3‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Where are you going today? Will you be around others that are in a dark place in their lives? Yes this even counts as your office! Your work is your mission field! Pray Isaiah 60:1-3 over yourself this morning! Ask the Lord to shine so brightly on you with his glory that others catch some joy and love radiating off you today! Be the little light we use to sing about and shine, shine, shine!!

*The picture was taking on my first morning at the beach this summer… watching the sunrise on the beach is a glorious place to be!

Lord this is your day that you have made, we will rejoice and be glad in it, do your thing Lord, do it BiG and Bright for all to see! In Jesus name I pray, amen!

God loves you! ❤️

Leigh Leigh

Even Nike gets it ;)

Brushing my teeth this morning I glance over at a pair of glasses I don’t wear often because they are men’s and don’t fit my tiny face hence the rubber bands.😝

Not sure if Nike knows it but even they are advertising God’s word lol “Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil, but living as servants of God.”

1 Peter 2:16 ESV

#livefree #freeinthesavior #hediedforyourfreedom #godlovesyou #Nike #justdoit receive Christ Jesus as your savior and let him transform you from the inside out! #speakinglifeinalostworld

If you are hurting and need a healing….

Dear hurting Friend,

I believe the power of prophetic art ministered by the Holy Spirit can break a strong hold.

I know you are in pain and you are suffering. You feel like you are slowly disappearing into the air. You feel unimportant, unnoticed, unacceptable, unloved, and unseen, but God sees you. Except he sees you through his lens of Truth. Truth is you are this amazing, wonderful, talented, gifted, lovable, caring, fun to be around, beautiful person he has created you to be.

You can’t see the beauty because you are so blinded by the rejection and the deception. You are not even close to what you have been thinking you are lately. It’s time to be healed from those damaging thoughts.

The Lord is ready and waiting to heal you and make your mind and your personality whole again. He is ready to heal you of that depression, all you have to do is ask him to heal you and you shall be healed.

❤️Psalms 30:2 LORD my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me. #healing #godheals #propheticart

❤️Leigh Leigh

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Rejection Chokes Out

Seeds of rejection take root underneath into the unseen heart which then grows into life choking vines that keep us trapped in our own solace.

Rejection masks itself as proud and strong but honestly it makes us weak, fearful, and vulnerable to letting others take advantage of us or hurt us. We then push away opportunities to love and be loved by others. We feel all alone and unwanted and ashamed.

Jesus is the healer of our hearts, our pains, our rejections. Today he is saying release the rejection and hurt into my hands, and I will give you a new heart that isn’t afraid to love anymore. He loves you and is waiting on you to love him. It’s time to do some landscaping! ❤

Jealous when your Man notices Her?

I have a friend who has been dealing with some self-esteem issues. They seem to be deep rooted and have caused problems in her marriage. It’s a tragedy really. As much as I try to help her feel better about the situation, she pretty much just ignores me and brushes the problem under the rug. This is until the next offense occurs, and we go through the same cycle again. She tells me the problem, I try and reassure her that she is magnifying it in her mind, and then I speak some words of affirmation to her and try help her see the root cause, jealousy. She agrees it is a self-esteem problem, but she never fully understands just how to fix it.

Just recently she called me again, crying and upset with one of the same scenarios. She is very self conscious of her body after a carrying a couple of babies and the extra pounds that attached themselves onto her hips resulting in the high demands, stress, and late night munchies all of us moms can relate to. If she catches her husband as much as looking at another woman, fully clothed or half clothed, she immediately attacks him. She fills her mind up with wrong thoughts, and fuels the fights with her fury and anger. In his defense he feels helpless because in his mind he hasn’t done anything wrong.

It can be a tool of control for some women. They don’t feel they have much control of anything else, but they can control how they are going to treat their Man when he is caught looking at another woman. Fury fueled mean words come darting across the room until they penetrate the heart of their target. They are not happy until he is hanging his head in defeat, tale tucked between his legs. “I did it! I made him feel sorry! I win.” But sweetie you didn’t win anything.

You don’t feel any better after the fight is over. You have actually just deteriorated some of the love fibers that make up the threads that hold you two together. Little by little you are taking something away from the relationship and your love as a whole is being effected in a negative manner.

A random thought popped into my head here recently after I had time to process her latest offense, and left me with a question. I wanted to ask her, “How do you think you will solve this jealousy problem that seems to dictate your happiness in your marriage? Do you catch yourself fantasizing about if only I had another Husband, he wouldn’t make me feel so badly compared to another beautiful woman on TV, the internet, the shopping mall, the baseball game, where ever?”

PERFECT HUSBANDS don’t exist, because there is no perfect person living on this PLANET!

The honest truth is, another man isn’t going to not do what your husband is doing. And honestly if he isn’t lusting over her and indulging in pornography, or pursing an affair, asking for her numbers, etc.. he hasn’t made any offense. When you are in the grocery store minding your business do you not ever meet stares of a member of the opposite sex? Do you never just look at people in general? Of course you do!

So what is it about this other woman that has you feeling so worthless? What is it about his stare that makes you believe he thinks you are not good enough or attractive enough to be called his beloved and prized wife?

Is it her lean slender body? You could always change your eating habits, join a gym and strive to become more active. Over time, and let me tell you this wont happen over night, or even in a few weeks, but maybe months to a year, your body will change and you will appear to be lean and slender.

Is it her long beautiful hair? You could take lots of vitamins, research all those pinterest posts on how to grow thick long beautiful hair, make hair masks, only brush it when it is dry, etc… all those silly antics we are all suppose to believe. Over time, you will have long beautiful hair.

What is it? What does she have that you feel like you don’t have?

As put together and perfect as she may appear in this whole 1.2 seconds that your man is looking at her, she is no different than you. We are women, we all have our quirks and our own flaws, and trust me there is not one single person out there who isn’t insecure about something!

But my point is this… can I whisper some sweet truth into your ear today, and hope and pray that this little truth acts as a patch that repairs the self hating, self condemning holes drilled out by your insecurities you have created in your head about your image of yourself…

Your worth is not diminished by the amount of stares your husband gives another woman!

I will say it again; your worth is not diminished by the amount of stares your husband gives another woman.

He may be intrigued by her outward beauty, but inside she could be the ugliest snake that has slithered the Earth; or CRAZIEST! 😉

1 Samuel 16:7

“But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”(NIV)

So now what? Have you caused your whole day to be ruined, and your relationship and security with your husband to suffer because of a pretty girl who happened to walk across your mans path and he noticed?

Your husband isn’t responsible for your self worth or your identity. Don’t ever let him have that kind of control or power, because unfortunately he isn’t the perfect husband, and you will be disappointed. Don’t put that kind of pressure on him, no one deserves to have that kind of pressure on them, honestly. There is only one who can handle that kind of pressure and he goes by the identity of I AM! 🙂

GOD!

Your self worth should come from your creator, and when he had finished knitting you in your mothers womb so fearfully and so wonderfully said, this is GOOD!

The truth is, you can pretty much fix anything these days your not happy with on your body thanks to modern day plastic surgery, liposuction, face lifts, injections, fake hair, fake tans, fake anything really. My opinion on all the fake stuff doesn’t count for much. Opinions of others shouldn’t matter, and to each their own. I say do whatever you need to do to feel good about yourself with of course the logic of balance! 😉 But if you don’t fix what is going on in the inside of your heart, your mind, your soul, you are never going to be completely happy with yourself or your outward appearance. You are just going to waste a lot of money, effort, and time in the process of fixing something you were not created to fix.

Please just STOP measuring your value in the wrong places! Stop letting the devil get into your head and OFFENDING you! First of all you have no clue what he is thinking when he is just looking at what is in front of him, unless you can read his mind! Then you are like some kind of super woman! 🙂 You are only listening to those lies Satan plants in your mind.

There was obviously something pretty fantastic about you that struck him silly and said, “Out of all the beautiful women on this planet, I must have this one! I pick her!”

Absorb the following truths found in scripture:

“You are precious in my eyes, honored, and loved…” Isaiah 43: 4

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” (NIV)1 Peter 3:3-4

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting: but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (NIV) Proverbs 31:30
The point God is trying to drive home in scripture is this; the heart is what makes you beautiful. The heart controls your beauty.

I don’t think 1 Peter 3:3-4 is literally saying you should never buy any pretty clothing or jewelry. It is just trying to make you focus on inner beauty because, um, in case you’ve forgotten, these bodies we live in are only temporary. No amount of botox or hours on the treadmill and hitting the bar bells are going to save us from aging! If you value yourself based on your outward appearance you are going to be left feeling empty and sad when you are old and wrinkly because of the beautiful results of a long life lived.

If you have a beautiful heart ,that you know with out a shadow of a doubt is valued by God, you will see yourself differently. You wont even be wasting your time on silly thoughts because you will know the truth, and it will set you free from comparison to any other beautiful woman or feeling devalued.

God didn’t give her anything more than he gave you. He didn’t use all his efforts on knitting her beautifully together, and then decide to use all the scrap piles for knitting you. He doesn’t work that way!

ALL things were created GOOD and for his GLORY, which means you were created GOOD and for his GLORY.

If you are a child of God, then you are valued to Him because when he sees you, he sees his Son, Jesus!

Don’t keep running around those same circles with Satan who is only trying to screw up your happiness! You are fantastic! You are enough! You are beautiful!

Love,

Leigh Leigh

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